Work Ethics

I am finding it hard to understand the over all work ethic that I am seeing as I get older. I know when I was still in high school I had a job and paid for my own cloths and other things. I didn't have a car but was able to use my parents. I went to work when scheduled. I can't say I never called off but very rarely. I picked up shifts and voluntered for events. I never asked to have the schedule changed. If I needed a day off for an appointment I scheduled it in advance so my boss would know. I worked as a nursing assistant for the first 3 years of my carreer. During that time I attended nursing school for my LPN. It was hard, I was young and newly married. Fortunately I didn't have any children yet. After recieving my LPN I went to work in the hospital.During that time I went to RN school and had 2 children. That was a very different experience. I rarely got a break and that is where I learned the bad habit of scarfing down what food I was able to take the time for. But again I worked the schedule I was given and asked in advance for days off. I didn't get every other week end off for a long time. I did finally get enough senority to get week ends off. After 10 years of that back to long term care I came. I worked in many positions Supervisor, ADON, DON and finally in 2000 I finished my degree in LTC Administration and became and administrator. I then worked in several regional roles to land once again back at a facility as the DON and administrator. I don't mind wearing multiple hats but have found myself dealing more with human resources than I should have to. People think nothing of telling me I need a day off after the schedule is made. (I make corrections if a request was made and I missed it)Calling in less than 1 hr before the shift starts, and refusing to stay over if necessary. Unfortunately I feel that I have made myself the bad guy by being too lenient with people. Also staff quit without notice and or don't work out their notice.Here are the main issues as I see them. I hope if someone reads this that you will make a comment and or suggestion: 1. Not working scheduled days 2. Calling in less than 1 hr before the shift 3. Spending more time worrying and discussing who is coming in or not 4. Discussing what someone else did not do 5. Not giving any notice when quiting 6. Refusing to stay over and help I find all of this very disrespectful and need to work on these issues. I would love some input from others.